One of God’s greatest creations was a woman. She can give birth, love and nurture a child, excel at work, and take care of a home and everyone in it all without even breaking a sweat. And this is merely scratching the service of a woman’s greatness! The best part about valuing the woman who is a part of your life is that when you acknowledge her greatness, she will be more willing to do great things for you. She’ll give birth to your children with pride, she’ll take care of the home and everyone in it, and she’ll do it all with a smile on her face.
With men, everything is black and white, cut and dry, plain and simple. With women there is always a gray area, a wider color spectrum or a complexity to every situation. That’s what makes a woman so amazing! Not only do they see things differently than you, but they look at how you see things and imagine something greater that could come of it. Take lunch for example, you may be ok with a bowl of Ramen noodles, but a woman of substance will come and produce a more healthy and balanced meal that will not only taste good but also gives you the nutritional value that your body needs.
A woman can help evolve you from a good man into a great one if you allow her to. Once a woman has decided that she wants to pour into your life, all you have to do is pour back into hers. Just like you, a woman wants to be loved, valued and appreciated and she takes great pride in being with a man who gives her that sort of security. If a woman doesn’t feel secure in who you are and the value you add to the relationship, it’s only a matter of time before she decides to end the relationship. If you want a woman to stay, give her hope; if you want a woman to leave, give her doubt.
When it comes to catering to a woman in a relationship, try to think of it as a business partnership. In order for the partnership to work, you both have to bring value to the relationship. In addition, you both have to acknowledge and respect the value that is being brought into the relationship. You each will have your own individual strengths and weaknesses, and that’s the beauty of coming together, to empower one another and help each other overcome those weaknesses through your individual strengths. If your lady doesn’t feel as though you are supportive of her goals, take no interest in helping her grow, or don’t compliment her strengths, then she won’t see the value in being in a relationship with you.
Instead, try and remember who you are, why you were chosen, and the position you signed up for. If you’ve signed up to be significant in a woman’s life, it is your job to have value within yourself, see value in her, and add value to her life. A woman looks to her man to compliment her beauty, skills and resourcefulness, and it’s as simple as saying “Babe, you are amazing!” These four simple will make a world of difference in your woman’s life and will inspire her to continue doing great things for herself, for others, and certainly for you. Be a source for love, joy and happiness, and she will never want to go a day without connecting with you.
One thing that many men struggle with is being sensitive to other people’s feelings. If you’re going to be successful with a woman, this is a practice you will have to learn how to master. Women are naturally very sensitive and emotional beings, and that is never going to change. Being sensitive and emotional is a human thing, not just a woman thing, it’s just that many men have yet to tap into their emotional and sensitive side. That’s where a woman comes in, to help bring the softer side out of a man.
When you think about it, women are like magicians, they can make amazing things happen right before your eyes. Some of the roughest, toughest and angriest men you’ll ever meet can be broken down by a woman. That in itself has tremendous value that we as men must be thankful for, because in all honesty, no man wants to constantly have his guard up and act rough, tough and angry all the time. This is an act that a lot of men put on to protect their hearts, image or street credibility. It yields no peace of mind to have a 24/7 chip on your shoulder and live your life without love, so for their amazing talents and abilities, we must be grateful for the power of love that dwells inside of a woman.
The power of a belief system will take you to unbelievable new heights. If you don’t believe me, give your woman a task and let her know that you have faith that she can do it. Go ahead and try it, ask her to put together a business plan, coordinate a spectacular event, or prepare an exquisite dish she’s never made before. Knowing that you believe in her is all the motivation she will ever need to get the job done. The value was always there, she simply needed someone to help bring it out of her. That someone is you!
If you spend the entire duration of your relationship bringing out the value of your woman, you’ll never get bored with your relationship. Push her in different directions helping her reach her goals, pull her away from danger and into safety because you care, lead her into prosperity because she means that much to you. The key to staying relevant in any relationship is solely based on the value you bring into the relationship. You make yourself indispensable if you are able to master the art of constantly inspiring your partner to be great.
The value of a woman isn’t solely about what she’s done in her past, but also about what she is a currently doing in the present and what she aspires to do in the future. Sometimes after experiencing the struggled of our past, we decide that our past isn’t the place we want to be. Meeting you could possibly be the best thing that has ever happened to your woman because you give her hope. Finally, a man who loves himself, loves others and by the grace of God loves her. This feeling of love can have a life changing impact on anyone and can shift a person’s values in an instant.
No matter who you are, where you’re from, or what you do, everyone’s circumstances is subject to change once you find love. Sometimes it’s hard for a person to see their own value when they’re not surrounded by people who have values. When a person changes their surroundings and associates with positive people and things, it eventually rubs off on them. In your lifetime you will meet many different women from different backgrounds and the all have a past. Just remember that even though they have a past, that you too have one.
One of the best ways to make corrections in life is through making mistakes. There’s always room for improvement, and even when you fall short, you are still valuable. Not every woman comes from a home with parents who teach great morals, values and principles, and for the one’s who do, not every women takes heed. As a man, it is your job to lead a woman, no matter how dark her past may be, if you choose to be with her, take her by the hand and guide her into the light. Hopefully by the time you’re ready to search for a woman, you will have already found the light, which will make your leadership path that much easier.
Being in a relationship is a job in and of itself. If you’re going to give a woman a position in your life, give it to her because you see her potential and intend to help her reach it. It’s easy to get into a relationship with someone who already “has it all” because there’s no work to be done. Be careful when choosing a woman who is “already made” because her expectations may exceed your capabilities and when your usefulness expires, so will the relationship. Women get bored very easily, so if you intend to keep up, you must first work on yourself, discover what your true value is and connect on a spiritual level with a woman who will appreciate the value that you bring to the table.
Be sure not to ignore this step because your own individual value will have a great impact on the value of the woman you attract. For example, you can’t ask for a rich/fit woman if you’re not a rich/fit man. Become the total package and you’ll find it easier to attract the total package. The total package means that you are spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially stable. Having these 4 basic things adds value to your life, and seeing these things come into fruition will show a woman how much you value yourself.
Self-love is a prerequisite to any relationship because it’s a reflection of your capacity to love and care for others. When you don’t love yourself, you’ll begin to view women in the same light that you subconsciously view yourself (i.e. Unworthy, lacking in value). It’s hard to see value in others when you don’t have it or see it in yourself, and it’s easy to point the finger at others when you’re afraid to take accountability for your own actions. Once you’ve taken the time to love and value yourself, it’s like removing a pair of foggy goggles from your eyes, you can see people for who they really are, as opposed to labeling them according to what they do or have done.
The value of your woman will have a lot to do with the value in you. It’s your choice who to engage in conversation, date, marry and/or have kids with, so be sure to evaluate your values system before making a life-time commitment to avoid a life-time nightmare. No matter how much or how little a woman values herself, it’s your job as a man to either love her or leave her alone. If you’re not a part of the solution, you’re a part of the problem. Lead the relationship into prosperity, encourage your lady’s strengths, and show appreciation for all of her contributions and she will continue to follow.
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