10 Great Places To Meet A Single/Independent Man

BachelorsLadies! All you have to do is show up, and the men will too! Knowing where single/independent men can be found is a great way to position yourself to be found. Right below you’ll find a list of places where single/independent men frequent.

1) The Grocery Store Single men who live by themselves have to fend for themselves and can often be found at the grocery store stocking up. The men you’ll find here are self-sufficient, working on improving their quality of life, and are closer to being ready if not ready for a relationship.

2) The Laundromat Single/independent men can be found here washing/drying their clothes. This is a sign that his mom is no longer taking care of them, he potentially doesn’t have a lady in his life to do it for him. He’ll be open to meeting new people and coming more often if he sees that you do laundry there as well.

3) The Bank Men who are financially responsible open up bank accounts. The men found here are either making a deposit, making a withdrawal, or opening up a new account. Business men tend to have a schedule for when they frequent the bank. When a man is financially stable, he is more open to the idea of dating.

4) The Gym– Gym memberships cost money. Men who have steady income can afford to go regularly.  He makes the choice to not live a sedentary lifestyle. The men you’ll find here are self-starters, financially independent, care about their health, and are open to dating. The body is a temple; being in great physical shape speaks to the character of a man.

5) Church– The men you’ll find in church are those who are working towards building a spiritual relationship with God and connecting with the community. He takes his own initiative and seeks God on his own merit. This is a great foundation for a man to have. Being “in” the church does not make him “of” the church, but it’s a start. A relationship without Love is a relationship that is destined for failure.

6) Book Stores/Libraries– The men you’ll find at bookstores are ones who are on a quest for knowledge. They are making the time to fuel their brain with information that will help them grow as a person. They choose a bookstore for it’s array of reading options, as well as the social environment. Seeking wisdom is a great trait for a leader to have. He’ll be open to the idea of meeting new people.

7) Coffee Shops– The men you’ll find here are busy at work. They’re brainstorming new ideas, putting plans into motion, and working towards success. Artists love to come here so they can zone out, get focused, and build their dreams. They are open to meeting other like-minded individuals here who can help them grow.

8) The Post Office– Men who have a working address, and business to take care of frequent the Post Office. They are in and out, but they are there quite often making shipments, checking their P.O. Box, applying for passports, etc. These men are busy, but are always open to the idea of networking and meeting new people.

9) Networking Events– Men who have business ideas or a business of their own can always be found at these events. They’re either personally invited because the host saw value in their attendance, or the individual is interested in expanding their network, building their brand, or getting motivated/inspired by the presence of other successful people. They will be open to the idea of meeting new people.

10) On The Train Saving money is important in this economy. Public transportation is a quick and cost-effective way to get to work every day. A great amount of men park their cars, hop on public transportation, and can be spotted at the same time everyday commuting back and forth to work. He is devoted to his work, and is open to taking a break and sharing his time with a woman.

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6 thoughts on “10 Great Places To Meet A Single/Independent Man

  1. Sexism and misogynistic attitudes have presented in all forms of media. There are countless books containing self-help advice on various topics. The most popular topic is relationships. This has spawned the “How to Get a Man” phenomenon. These books seem harmless, but their messages are often demeaning towards women and preach submission over equality of women. These books are often written by self-proclaimed relationship coaches, with little or no formal training. Some of these books are written by celebrities. Many of the best sellers are written by men. They are selling books based on “life experiences”. A perfect example of this is, Tyrese Gibson best known for his roles in Baby Boy and Transformers, a best-selling R&B artist, his outrageous Twitter conflicts and most recently his rants against obese people, is the author of two self- help books. Tyrese’s educational background is sketchy and there’s no proof of a successful personal relationship, Tyrese has managed to make it to the New York Times Best seller list. To give Tyrese credit the book that was marketed to his female audience, was co-authored by Rev Run of Run DMC now an ordained minister. Part of Reverend Run’s duties is to offer advice. Tyrese’s books are almost harmless compared to some others.

    Steve Harvey’s educational background is a bit more extensive than Tyrese’s, however whereas Tyrese’s books explore the man’s mind and then gives advice, Harvey’s books lean more towards telling a woman how to be a woman. His book received mixed reviews. Those who did not support his book went on to criticize his advice when he adapted that same book into a cinematic comedy starring Kevin Hart. It left many of us questioning the validity of the book. This relationship advice came from a twice divorced comedian.
    Recently there has been severe criticism of life coach Chey B. on the social network, Twitter. I was first made aware of his presence by a tweet that could be construed as homophobic. Twitter is a place where random thoughts are condensed to 140 characters at a time. Sensitivity and political correctness is often disregarded. What makes the difference in Chey B’s tweets is that he claims to be a life coach there to uplift and empower women. The following are tweets from Chey B. that have garnered some criticism:

    “Ladies: Believe me… you don’t want “equality”. Walk in a man’s shoes for 24 hrs and you’ll be begging to get the perks of a woman again!”

    “Make up your mind ladies! Either you want to be on the same level as a man, or you want him to be gentle and cater to you.”

    “Ladies: Your degrees are “your” degrees. They’re about as useful to a man as toilet paper. A man wants to know “What can you do for me?”

    “Ladies: Your vagina is your negotiating power!”

    Chey B.,makes the assertion that he speaks for all men and that women would be better off being submissive. His messages often go along with the concept; “Feminism does not uplift Black people. It actually divides black men and women” (@theblackguyx via Twitter) Chey has admitted that he targets women. Has taken pride in the hashtag #singlebydesign but yet his whole book is devoted to telling a woman how to get and keep a man. When he is questioned or criticized about his views he often responds with pre prepared, generic answers. He has yet to answer direct questions regarding how his message affects equality.

    Other disturbing behavior by Chey B., is his unwillingness to speak directly to African- American men on Twitter that have questioned his viewpoints. If these men are not in total agreement with his views he directs them to his website where they can request one on one advice with him. Instead of backing his views, when challenged Chey B. will make a statement and quickly delete or make the tweet otherwise unavailable. Those who have had direct contact with Chey, have had to resort to capturing these tweets via screen shot or other methods of saving the tweets. This tends to happen when he is questioned by bloggers interested in obtaining research material. Chey often tells individuals that disagree with him, that their issue is self-hate. It is disheartening that Chey B. has over 30,000 followers and his messages continue to mock the independence and equality of women.

    If there continues to be a following for Chey B.’s advice and other self-proclaimed life coaches with the same damaging messages of submission, further generations are doomed. Chey B. and his counterparts are the gateway to worsening sexist attitudes towards women. Once a woman is told to revert back to old gender roles, society will then begin to feel as if women are not entitled to deserved equality. Injustices, assaults and misogyny become more acceptable. and his counterparts are the gateway to worsening sexist attitudes towards women. Once a woman is told to revert back to old gender roles, society will then begin to feel as if women are not entitled to deserved equality. Injustices, assaults and misogyny become more acceptable.

    1. Excellent thoughts and I agree with them. Had to laugh at the meeting men at a bank or library. I’ve been going to both for years and have yet to see any man going there with the intent of meeting a woman.

  2. I found this kind of funny myself. I know to take Chey with a grain of salt, as his perspective. I only date within my religion so a lot of what he says doesn’t pertain to me, actually most of what he says. But, I read it to see what others are talking about and for a good laugh.

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