What A Man Needs From His Woman!

Food, Sex & Peace of Mind is what a woman needs to know to keep a man! It sounds simple, and it is, however a more strategic approach needs to be taken in order to make this attempt at keeping him happy successful! A man always knows what he wants from a woman, but he sometimes needs a little help with seeing the value in what he truly needs! When you connect with a man, your advantage over other women will come based on the value you add to his life (outside of the bedroom). Getting to know a man on the inside and out will be your playbook for figuring out how to play offense, win him over, and in the end get him to celebrate you! The quality of your giving will make all the difference in the quality of your relationship.

If you leave it up to a man, he will be A-ok with the simple things in life, the bare minimum, or stuck in his “whatever works” mentality. Everything is black and white when it comes to men, and this is where the value of a woman comes into play; a woman adds vibrance, color, and an abundance of love into the picture. He may be ok with eating Ramen Noodles for dinner 7 nights a week, but he would much rather to have a home cooked meal prepared by a loving, caring woman. He will immediately see the value in having you around, and he will want to hold onto you because of that value, which would’ve been otherwise missed had you sat back and watched him eat Ramen Noodles every night. There’s nothing wrong with Ramen Noodles (I personally love them), but anytime there’s an opportunity for you to upgrade your man, it’s in your best interest to make an attempt to take it!

Many women today are convinced that men do not want to be in long-term monogamous relationships, and that couldn’t be further from the truth. A man simply wants to reach certain milestones in his life before taking on the responsibility that comes along with a commitment. In other words, he doesn’t yet feel as though he is worthy, and he’s doing the honorable thing by sparing you the heartache, pain, and struggle of being in a relationship with a man who’s simply not ready. When a man is finally ready spiritually, emotionally, and financially, he’s in his Single By Design mode, and he’s not looking to settle for just anyone! When a man achieves greatness, he will be looking to commit to a great woman.

A man knows the role he wants a woman to play in his life before he even meets her. This is why it’s important for you as a woman, to know who you are and show who you are so that when you come across a man who’s finally ready to settle down, he will immediately see value in you, and consider you for a future. He’s looking for an upgrade! Someone who can take his life, relationship, business, and family to the next level, as opposed to simply keeping him leveled. Men are simple and like to do simple things, but on his own time, and his own way! Although he may want less, being with a woman will guarantee that he gets more, because at some point or another, a woman eventually wants more.

Healthy relationships never stop growing; in order for a relationship to successfully grow, you have to continually plant new seeds, love and nurture it, and watch everything that you’ve invested come into fruition. If you come into a relationship with the same exact values as a man (i.e. eating Ramen Noodles 7 nights a week), at some point or another, he’s going to say to himself “Why am I with her? I can eat Ramen Noodles, sit around and watch TV, etc with my boys or by myself and spend less. Where’s the value in this relationship? Sure, the sex is great, but we’re not growing! She’s just “here”!” Don’t let this scenario be you; take a man’s simplicity and upgrade him with your creativity!

If you want your relationship to be a success, you have to work towards making it a success! The goals you put in place for yourself as an individual and for each other as a couple will give you something to look forward to each and everyday. If you grow complacent, your relationship will get stale, and one or both parties will seek something and/or someone that is worth looking forward to. In efforts to work towards relationship success, keep in mind “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Relationships (According to AskCheyB). Respect, Love, Trust, Loyalty, Honesty, Support, and Communication.

Respect: There is no limit to how far a man will go for you if he believes in his heart that you are someone who respects who he is and all that he does. Each and every one of us seeks validation from someone else on one level or another; for a man, he takes pride in knowing that he is able to be of value to his woman. Everything you say and do will show just how much you love and respect your significant other, or the lack thereof. His motivation to do better and be better will come through the person he values the most! If you are in his life, your respect isn’t just wanted, but it’s needed in order for him to feel confident about the future of your relationship.

Love: A man’s home is his place of peace; it’s where he rejuvenates his mind, body, and spirit! A man will involve you in everything if you are being his everything! (i.e. Lover, fighter, cook, accountant, adviser, masseuse, you name it). A relationship is about creating “win wins” for both parties; you are a team, you stick together, and you continually add value to each other’s lives. If you find that your man is in a bad mood, you have to remember that the two of you are one, or working towards becoming one, so use this opportunity to remind him why you are the most important woman in his life. Continue to show him love appreciation, and affection so that he’ll never have a reason to treat you with anything less.

Trust: There is power in words, so speak them into existence, but do so with an open and honest heart! When using your words, follow through with your actions, and make sure that they are both in alignment; this will build your significant other’s confidence in you and will also strengthen the bond in your relationship. When building trust, do so out of selflessness, not selfishness; you want to keep secrets with your partner, not from your partner. Being true to yourself starts with loving yourself; when love is present, it’s evident, and needs no explanation. When love is absent, in comes cloudy vision, lies, deceit, cover ups, etc, which in turn raises your significant other’s awareness. People who have taken the time to truly love themselves know what true love looks and feels like, so don’t allow selfishness to ruin what could potentially be a winning team. Stay true to him, as you would want him to stay true to you.

Loyalty Be consistent with your character and remember that you both are on the same team and are playing to win! When your significant other is not around, he should feel confident in knowing that you are treating yourself with the same dignity and respect as you would if he were standing right next to you. The slightest bit of betrayal can bruise a man’s ego, and hurt his pride, which will cause turmoil in your relationship. A man wants to know that he is number one in your life, and that no other man or woman (outside of your family) gets the privilege of having a number in your book. Your loyalty to one another is one of the most important things that will keep you together!

Honesty: Life is about building relationships and leaving behind legacies. When it comes to the growth and development of your relationship, let go of the past, and look forward to your future. If you want your significant other to love who you are, he needs to know who you are. Being transparent will allow your partner to see your strengths, your weaknesses and everything else in between. When you allow your partner to see who you are, where you are strong, and where you are weak, you then allow him to see which areas he will be able to help you the most. That moment of vulnerability could mean a lifetime of victory!

Support: If your man is struggling financially, be his cheerleader, his motivation, his inspiration, and his support system as he works towards getting back on his feet. Instead of being the woman who holds him down, be the woman who lifts him up! It’s easy to to commit to someone when everything is good, but the real challenge will come when everything is bad! The way you handle yourself, your partner, and your relationship under turbulent times will confirm where you stand as an individual, and as a couple, and will have a great impact on your relationship’s future.

Submission is also a very powerful tool that will only grant you more and more of your man’s favor. When you submit, you’re showing him that you want him to lead, and that you trust and respect his judgement/leadership. A man has his pride, and pride can be quite useful when it’s focused in areas that inspire growth! If for example, a man is proud to be a servant of God, loyal husband, father, and contributor in his community, that’s a beautiful thing, and as his woman, you should be proud as well. When a man is proud of something, or passionate about something, be there to support him, or be there to advise him on how to upgrade his ideas, vision, and/or passion.

Communication: With wisdom comes understanding! Men and women communicate differently, and that’s ok because this will challenge you to adapt in unfamiliar territory. Once you understand the way men prefer to send and receive messages, you will find it much easier to get what you want and with a great attitude (on his part). Men are simple, so don’t make things complicated; if you want something done, simply let him know what it is you want, and leave him to it! If you have additional information that might be helpful, by all means share it, and then (again), leave him to it. He will figure it out in his own way and on his own time, but rest assured, he will figure out. The best part is, you will get what you want (minus the fuss) and in the end, everyone’s happy!

What a man needs in his life is a woman who has wisdom; someone who understands him and accepts him for who he is as opposed to trying to mold him into someone she wants him to be. A woman who is a great listener, communicator (not to be confused with speaker), supporter, who can be his go-to girl for everything he needs. As his woman, it’s in your best interest to be innovative and have the ability to adjust, figure things out, and accommodate him. If he has everything he needs at home, he’ll have no reason to outsource.

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39 thoughts on “What A Man Needs From His Woman!

  1. Thanks Chey this has enlighten me, the information that you placed in this blog is something that I see in my relationship, which is all good. No matter what I believe in myself and love myself and therefore, very confident in who I am and who I am becoming. Truly at the end of the day I want to be the person described as having understanding and being supportive.

  2. There is so much I could say and should say about this…. but I will refrain and just appreciate it for its aesthetic value…lol

  3. “Submission is also a very powerful tool that will only grant you more and more of your man’s favor.” This is unadulterated TRUTH! This, however, takes working through our own issues; otherwise, the past will block this and all the other suggestions you make in your blog. Thanks for sharing and I am so happy to have found you. My desire, however, is that more women come to the table with this kind of hard-hitting truth.

    With respect to honesty: We can only be as honest with others as we are with ourselves. Start with the internal work and the rest will come automatically. The cure is in the cause of any problem, relationships or not!

      1. It takes two. If one is unwilling…well, again, some internal work to decide what you really want in life and how to get there.

      2. Then you’ve got a decision to make. Establish what you value, set personal boundaries accordingly, and accept nothing less. When people refuse to change, you have to assess the collateral damage on your own life and decide, in light of your values and God’s specific guidance in the matter, what will be your next move!

  4. By the way, you couldn’t have found a better couple to personify a healthy, nurturing and most powerful relationship between a man and woman than the Obamas!

  5. Absolute Great Blog- I sincerely hope more men will learn how to communicate, and understand independent women. They are not seeking dominating men. They adore men who LEAD and GUIDE. When they learn the difference… relationships grow stronger and last longer. I wish you tremendous success, and may God bless you beyond your greatest potential, in helping others understand how to communicate not only as human beings, but also as “spiritual” beings at a higher level. – Pat S.

  6. Reblogged this on educatedajebutter and commented:
    hey Loved ones,
    how are you… Its Monday !!!! YEIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII ..now for all those that know me ,they know am as bubbly as that Yei! today is a great day (giggle)….

    I thought this reblog post was a great follow up to the one i wrote about men that i gathering is gonna get a few people rattled and others ‘on to something’…. ‘giggle’.
    I am all for living ones life to the fullest and to the optimum of that fullest.. so excuse me if i sound preety riled up about this topic 🙂

    all my love..

    Love, Light and more exposure of the mind.

    Murikira Yasmine!

  7. This was a nice blog but somehow I felt like it is once again for the woman to do all of the work. Add value to the mans life? We as woman have been doing that from the beginning of time. We are the mothers of the earth and bred a nation of men. We have added value to their lives in more ways than one. What about men adding value to ours? So many single moms, who are good woman and have done exactly what is outlined, only to stand alone raising their little ones. I do agree that a man can’t give a woman what she needs until he has #1 became a man #2 achieved his own desires a.d become whole! So my suggestion is that men work on themselves before deciding to get into relationships. Just date! Be single! No harm ….no faoul and no trail left of broken hearts.

    1. Sorry for the typos (using my phone) 🙂 But I also want to add that I am very proud of Chey and his work trying to expose the man’s point of view for women. I just hope woman spend more time working on themselves and adding value to their own lives so that when the man who is “whole” finds her she is also ready.

  8. @Tilena- Thanks for reading and commenting. This “one” blog (of my 90 blog posts) was for the men. Blogs like this one are very scarce, but very much needed. Consistency in the value one adds to the lives of others is key! Knowing is half the battle. Hopefully this blog effectively delivered what men feel to be valuable in a relationship.

  9. @MarshallTalk A Man needs his woman to treat him better than all the fools out there. A Man needs his woman to let him be a man, by respecting him. A Man needs his woman to make it clear who number one is. A Man needs his woman to stop playing games, and tell him what she wants and needs from him.

    This is just to name a few things, but LADIES it is important for you to understand for your own protection MAKE SURE he is Your Man and make sure he is a Good Man. You should find the right man for you and just give in, but if you give in to a fool, he won’t end up the only fool at the end of the day.

  10. Thanks so very much for this. Been following ur posts on twitter n facebk, and i must confess, they r sooooo rich! God bless n increase u as u continue being a blessing 2 ur world.

  11. Thanks once again thanks for the advice yesterday Chey! Never spend your time, money or emotions on someone who doesn’t add value to your life! Extraordianry advice! You’re on fire and I just love it Sir!:)

  12. Hey Cheyb!!

    How can you say a man knows when a woman is the one, but then say, that you changed from the man that you used to be, so she is not the one anymore.

    What the hell is the definition of ” The One” then?

  13. This is the best blueprint for a successful relationship that I have ever read. It really putlines what a man and woman need to understand about each other. Thank you.

  14. Good topic of discussion because a lot of woman and men often need a reference guide to shine light on the dark areas of relations

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