No Commitment=No Sex

Although birth and sex are typically a woman’s most valued treasures, a woman’s mind is the most invaluable possession a woman has. Her ability to use her mind to maintain control over men and situations are simply amazing, but only if/when she realizes the gift that she has, and uses it to remain in control. You have more to fear from dealing with a man who wants access to your mind than with your body. A man who wants access to your body is clearly seeking physical pleasure. A man who wants access to your mind is after more! How much more is totally ambiguous.

Even if a man doesn’t value your body for what it’s truly worth, then as a woman “you” should. A man can’t get inside of you unless you let him, so if you’re going to allow a man to come into your personal space and be intimate with you, then it should be with a man you love, trust, and respect and who reciprocates these same things. When you involve yourself with a man who loves you, you trust him, and he respects you, you won’t have to worry about him abandoning you when things don’t go perfectly, because if he loves & respects you, it’s evident that it’s not in his character to do so.

You also won’t have to worry about the sex being bad, because the sex you have “together” will be based on the things you’ve grown to like “with each other”. It’s “exclusive” and incomparable to any other experience. You’ll love the way he kisses you, the way he touches you, the way he makes love to you, and you’ll have an appreciation for the way “he” romances you. And if there’s anything that you don’t like about the sexual experience you’re having together, you can talk to each other about it and challenge one another to make your sexual experience with one another better.

This is the consideration that one has for the person they love, trust, and respect. Love, trust, and respect isn’t developed over night and it’s not handed out to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. Trust and respect is earned and when it is earned, love is given! And just as trust, and respect is earned, the privilege of having sex with you should be earned as well. If you don’t set any standards or make any requirements for a man to meet prior to having sex with you, a man will sleep with you and totally disregard you and your feelings because whether you realize it or not, he has lost all respect for you. He’s already reached the ultimate form of pleasure with you and has no reason to return unless he wants more sex with no strings.

Life is about building relationships and leaving behind legacies. When you give your body to a man who hasn’t earned that privilege, you leave behind a legacy of being someone whose fast, easy, and doesn’t respect herself. As a woman, you should never want to be remembered by anybody in this world in that light.  You have a future ahead of you and you don’t want your past to come back and haunt you. Always carry yourself with dignity and respect, place value on your body and only give yourself to a man who is deserving of it.

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12 thoughts on “No Commitment=No Sex

  1. I totally agree with this. In our culture before, a man and a woman in a relationship can only hold hands, and the man can only kiss the woman on the hand, and making love only happens once married. It’s because we had this belief that a woman should face the altar ( for Catholics ) pure and the man can only have the right to touch her, when he’s her husband already. But now it’s way different.

  2. I loved your post! I just wish you could find me men who think that way. I am pretty much like orientalbliss. That is the best way to get to know each other well and if you are compatible before he “spills his seed” (Biblical) and she opens her prized vessal.

    There are of course two people involved in this decision to have sex before commitment but I do believe the woman is the more vulnerable of the two parties and needs to protect her reputation.

    Good food for thought as usual! I just need to know how long it will take before the man finds me LOL!

  3. Wow! Powerful insight! If only it were that easy…. but you are on point with your blog about women. Our mind is the MOST INVALUABLE possession we own; we just don’t know how much control we have with it because a lot of us are distorted with WORDS that men “speak” to us. I read your blogs, your tweets, and your posts on a daily. It’s medicine to my soul and an uplift to my spirit. I, also, ordered your book! God Bless you and all your endeavors Chey!

  4. Good morning Mr. Chey B. This was a great blog and I appreciate you. Thanks for keeping us on our toes! I shared it with a few friends and they agree….

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