Anytime a man cheats, it’s time for you to reevaluate the relationship. Cheating lets you know that whatever it is you’re doing isn’t enough to satisfy him. There’s nothing you can do about it and if you take him back once he’ll do it again. Cheaters don’t play fair, and after everything’s said and done you’ll never be able to fully trust him again after he’s proven to be disloyal. If your partner cheats, the contract is breached!
A cheater wants to have more than everyone else, and the only way for him to ensure that he’s getting more than you are is to live a double life behind your back. If he entertained other women in your face, that would reveal his hidden agenda and would even the playing field. He’s not looking for an open relationship, no! He’s looking for a one-sided relationship where he gets to do whatever it is he wants to do, while you’re sitting at home being loyal. He could very easily be single and play the field but no, he would much rather drag you through the mud while he plays instead.
When a cheater gets away with cheating, he considers this to be “winning”! He’s having his cake and eating it too while nobody suspects a thing. This may be loads of fun for him, but it’s disrespectful to you, your family, his family, your friends, and anyone else who might be witnessing his lies and deceit. Cheaters lack integrity so don’t expect them to come clean if you accuse them of cheating, and don’t expect them to be forthcoming either. The thrill for him is in hiding the truth, not telling the truth.
Anytime a cheater gets caught cheating, he won’t be sorry about the cheating, no! He’s sorry that he got caught, and now he’s looking for a way out of the mess he created. Even still, after being caught cheating you’ll notice that he’s still isn’t considerate of your feelings. He’ll say he’s sorry, beg, plead, promise to never do it again, and he may even be bold enough to deny the whole thing. Instead of giving you time to reflect on what just happened, he’ll smother you and try to force you buy into his lies and deceit. He’ll expect you to immediately take him back without giving it any thought whatsoever because he’s only considering his own feelings and not yours.
Now let the tables turn and you step out and cheat on him just one time, oh he’s going to LOSE HIS MIND!!! He won’t be able to wrap his mind around how you could possibly do such a thing to him, even after the many times he’s done it to you. His pride and his ego might force him to leave you without even thinking twice about it because he’s been beaten at his own game. If he stays, you’ll never hear the end of it, and he’ll drive you crazy with his constant questioning of your whereabouts and his insecurity. Part of the reason for his insecurity is that he’s still cheating. The other part is that he’s afraid that you’re going to beat him to the punch and he doesn’t want you to have your cake and it too just like him.
Cheaters cheat because they don’t appreciate the value in being fair and they’ve grown so accustomed to cutting corners, scamming others, and burning bridges that it’s become a part of their everyday make-up. Sometimes in order for a man to humble himself, he has to hit rock bottom. It’s unfortunate, but some men need a little help and need to be crushed to help them reach that bottom. Once they’ve experienced a taste of their own medicine, they’ll get a feel of what it’s like to be heartbroken, to feel betrayed, and to be disrespected by someone you love.
Cheating should never be a solution for anyone in a relationship, if you’re unhappy, simply talk to your partner about it and come up with the best possible solution. No one deserves to be lied to, deceived, or betrayed, even if it was done to you! There’s no telling what an emotionally charged man with a bruised ego might do to you if he found out that you were cheating, and you don’t want to find out. You only have one life to live, so protect yourself at all cost! If you or your partner feel the need to outsource, talk to one another instead and consider the possibility of being single.
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