Knowing how long to wait for a marriage proposal…

People tend to use relationships for everything short of building a future with someone. Relationships are 100% optional so if you’re ready, willing, or able to commit to someone, then don’t! The sole purpose of being in a relationship is to have the added support from someone you’re romantically interested in, with the potential to grow. If there’s no potential to grow, there’s no sense in being in an exclusive relationship with someone; you can do bad/good all by yourself.

When you first meet a person, you evaluate them based on their appearance, their character, morals/values, etc and from there you can decide whether or not this person is worth giving more of your time to. Once you’ve determined he is worth giving more of your time to, simply give him more of your time until he has proven to be someone to be taken seriously and considered for a position that will allow him to be closer to your heart and to the people who are important in your life.

Side note: Before you give a man your time, make sure he has a steady source of income. If he can’t afford to take care of himself now, he won’t be able to afford courting you, he won’t be able to afford a ring to propose to you with, and he will not be able to afford the wedding of your dreams within the next 2-3 years. If somehow he miraculously comes up with the money within 2-3 years, he won’t be willing to spend all he has on you. He will take care of his own priorities first. The idea is to get married “one time” in your life, so don’t sell yourself short by getting married at a courthouse or in Vegas just because this man doesn’t have his life together. If you marry a broke man, you can expect to have a broke marriage. Not quite the “Happily Ever After” you imagined eh? :/

While you’re getting to know this person, dating, etc, you’re also be busy with you’re own personal life; whatever that might entail (i.e. Work, school, kids, etc). Days, weeks, and months will go by before he’s earned his place in your heart. If at this point, you feel comfortable enough to take things further, allow him the opportunity to ask for a commitment. You don’t have to “wait” for him to ask. Simply keep yourself busy so he’ll be prompted to ask you for more exclusivity. When you withhold special privileges from a man, he will do anything to receive favor from you (including marriage), especially if he considers you to be a woman of substance.

3 months is more than enough time to determine whether or not a man should or should not become your significant other, so make the decision to keep him around or keep it moving now. You do this by making yourself less and less available to him, which will prompt him to take the lead. If you express to him through words that you want more, you’ll scare him off and make him change his mind about you, so use a subtle approach and simply remove yourself from the picture, so he’ll work harder to get you back in the picture. Think of relationships like a big game of chess! You study your target, plan your moves, and always keep your mate in check!

After deciding that you’d like to get more serious with one another and it’s established that you’re now a couple, continue to get to know one another while still living your lives. Be sure not to smother one another; give each other enough room to breathe, but not enough room to leave. Men of substance are secure in themselves, they are independent and enjoy keeping their independence, so be sure to establish that you too are capable of enjoying life on your own, and at the same time enjoying his company when he’s around. Coming off as too needy or clingy early on in the relationship is a sure fire way to send a man running for the hills.

Throughout the first year of being together, you will experience a birthday, Valentine’s Day, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and an entire summer’s worth of excitement! If this person is someone you are interested in growing with, there will be no question in your mind that you will want to spend each and every one of the upcoming Holiday’s together. If this is the way you’re mutually feeling about one another, it would be a nice touch to invite your partner to family gatherings and introduce one another to the people who are most important in your life. <<< This is a sign of vulnerability and growth.

After you’ve introduced him to the people who are most important in your life, get your partner’s feedback on what he thinks of your family, and also get your family’s feedback on what they think of your partner. Both opinions are equally important so listen carefully to the feedback they give you. Your family has nothing invested in your relationship… but they genuinely care about you and your well-being, so treasure the things they tell you that they see in the man you’re with.

If your family who loves and cares about you senses that there’s something unsettling about your partner’s character, and they feel as though he’s not a good fit, it’s a good idea to take those feelings into consideration when deciding your future with him. This doesn’t have to be the determining factor, but certainly a factor in your decision making. Often times when we’re in love, we don’t see or think clearly, and we’re blinded by our emotional state; people on the outside looking in sometimes have a clearer vision of our current situation.

No matter how many men who come and go from your life, your family will always be there, however your family will be less reluctant to help you in the future if you don’t appreciate the help that they offer now. Staying in a relationship that everyone around you views as unhealthy will effect the way your family views your partner, your relationship and your character from that point on (if you continue on with that relationship). Your family comes first, so if your partner has a problem with your family, then you should have a problem with him. Weight the pros and cons and decide on your own accord what’s best for you. No matter who’s giving the feedback, never disregard the feelings of the people who love and care for you; they are there to help!

So now one full year has gone by and if you’ve survived the Holidays, survived meeting the family, and survived “each other” (lol), then you’re definitely on the right track. In a full year’s time, the seasons will have changed, you’ll have learned so much about your partner, and now it’s time for a pause!!!! After one year of your life has gone by… how do you now feel about your partner? Are you still excited to see him? Are you still interested in growing? Is he being consistent with the behaviors he’s exhibited from the beginning? If so, continue to enjoy this person’s company, and continue to do things that will bring you closer together.

Throughout this 2nd year, those Holiday’s will have rolled back around again, and if your family liked the man you brought around them the first time, they will be delighted to see that you’re still with him. Only this time, your family will sense that the two of you are serious about one another, so they’ll want to know if marriage and babies are in the near future. He will love the fact that your family accept him and feel as though he’s worthy of such privileges, so those honorably mentions will be on his mind and on his heart. And he’s also aware that you heard these mentions as well. <<< So he’s definitely got to do something… and soon. Otherwise, he can look forward to holding his head in shame the next time he faces your family if there’s been no progression. A relationship should not be a flatline; it should always be on the path of growth!

Side note: It’s very important to be family oriented when you’re in a relationship, because it establishes what a person values (or the lack thereof). It becomes a matter of pride after a certain amount of years go by and your family, friends, and co-workers are not seeing any growth in you or your relationship. They may not say anything after a certain amount of years, because by then they will have accepted the fact that the two of you aren’t going anywhere… and they simply stop inquiring/caring about what your future holds. The only people left to realize that the relationship isn’t going anywhere is the people who are actually in the relationship…You and him!

After year two, his feelings for you should be crystal clear! If at this point he is in a comfortable place financially, and he still feels the same way about you as he felt in the beginning, he will want to do something to take your relationship to the next level because he wants for this experience to continue on and remain exclusive. On the other hand, if at this point he isn’t considering popping the question, or feels differently about you, then he’ll probably be content remaining your boyfriend until one of you can’t take it anymore. <<<< If this is the case, cut your losses and end the relationship with him (even if it hurts).

Marriage is very tough decision for a man to make, so if the relationship is still healthy and you feel as though he is considering marrying you, be sure not to give him any reason to change his mind. It’s during these stages, his tolerance will be at an all time low and he’ll be subconsciously looking for a reason not to pop the question, so don’t give him one. Marriage (to a man) can be quite intimidating so whatever you do… do not pressure him into making this decision. Do not even mention the words “marriage” around him unless you’re intentionally trying to get rid of him. It’s already been established during the getting to know you process that you desire to get married, and you can show him in subtle ways that you will not stick around without one.

It takes a man a great deal of courage to walk up to a woman and simply say hello, so if you can imagine, it will take a man even more strength, courage, and self-assurance to propose marriage. While you’re in a relationship with a man, always be his support system so that he can feel 100% comfortable coming to you and talking to you about anything on his heart and mind. If throughout the relationship you have proven to be an asset to his life, he will want to give you the title that you rightfully deserve, and will be more open to making it a reality.

Marriage is a life changing decision and a serious commitment, and it will take him a little bit of time to think. A marriage will require him to share his assets, his living space, his last name, and pretty much share his entire world! This is something that he has to run through his “board of trustees” before making it official (i.e. His mother, his father, his siblings, and his boys for their approval). If you’ve already met these people and have made a good impression, you’re in good standings.

You can rush a man into bed, but one thing that’s for certain is that you can’t rush a man into a relationship or a marriage, so while you wait, continue to be the best woman you can be. The last thing you want is for a man to marry you as a result of an ultimatum. If your goal is to be married and the man your with doesn’t want to be married, then maybe that’s not the man you should be spending years of your life with. Go where you’re celebrated, not tolerated! If you’re with a man who enjoys being around you, loves you to death, and wants to build a future with you, you can expect a marriage proposal between years 2-3.

If its past year 3 and you still haven’t gotten the ring, then you should take a look at your life and your relationship, and reevaluate your future. Some men can go a full life time being in a relationship that offers friendship and benefits. He could care less about a title because he’s already getting everything that he feels a marriage could possibly offer. It’s common for a man to use an engagement as a way to keep the benefits flowing, with no real intentions on investing in a wedding, or going through with a marriage. Instead of being mesmerized by the words “Will you marry me?”, pay close attention to his actions and ask yourself, “Does this man actions show that he’s interested in marrying me?” Never listen to a man’s words… always follow his actions.

If you agree to a marriage proposal, do so not just for the sake of saying, “I got the ring!”, but because you’ve found a man who loves you, cares for you, and values having you in his life. If a man doesn’t see value in you from the beginning, let that be the end. Do not allow a man to take years of your life deciding whether or not he feels you’re worth marrying. This is a trick that men use to string women along. A man knows the role he wants for a woman to play in his life before he even meets her!

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61 thoughts on “Knowing how long to wait for a marriage proposal…

  1. Great post, now what happens if you stayed 5years with him and he doesn’t at all mention the word marriage? Does this mean you can remind him to marry you or just leave it as is or pack my bags?

    1. If marriage is what you want or see for yourself with a person then you wouldnt be with them for 5 years with out it not being discussed. Actually if Marriage is not a similar goal then most likely there are other things you guys do not share in common. So yes pack your bags.

    2. Hello Lutendo, I appreciate you reading and sharing your thoughts. A man knows the role he wants for a woman to play in his life before he even meets her. After 5 years and no proposal, he’s comfortable where he’s at and is no rush to change his status. After 5 years and no ring, you (as a woman) should re-evaluate your position as well. I would love for you to share this blog with your facebook friends and encourage them to subscribe.

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  2. Very good info, as always. Hopefully, this will sink in with most women. I too, strongly believe that a man knows in the 1st year if he wants to spend his life with a woman. Some women give too much too soon instead of letting men earn it. I’m old-fashioned, I don’t believe I’m moving in together and playing house. To me, that lessens the chances of getting a proposal until much later when he feels pressured to propose. And the money thing…I ain’t saying I’m a gold digger… I have a career and a business, stocks and bonds, a mortgage, and 2 car payments. I can’t even be approached by a man with “somewhat” of a job! I’m not playing sugar mama to anybody!

    1. Hello TSW, I appreciate you reading and sharing your thoughts. That’s the right attitude to have. A person should at least mirror everything that you are, or what you aspire to be. I would love for you to share this blog with your facebook friends and encourage them to subscribe.

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  3. I’m not too concerned ab the marriage proposal, but there’s some good advice here…now I just wonder if there’s such a thing as “too late” to implement. Say you didn’t quite start out right, can you correct your mistakes, or should you cut your losses and remember this for the next guy?

  4. Wow, interesting. I just ended a 4 year relationship because he point blank told me he’s intentions are not to marry me but give me a good life. And by this he means the house, the car and all other material things he bought for me. We have a 3 month old child together and he has 2 kids from his previous marriage. Divorced twice, he feels he doesn’t want to go through any of that again. I’m a lover and want to see myself married and sharing my life with a committed partner. So its been a week now and I’m coping. I actually feel great and ready to move on and not be tied done to a “girlfriend” title for eternity. So reading the article has given me a little boost. Thank you.

  5. Great points. Successful relationships require a process, and your explanations are very clear. Many people dismiss the importance of the milestones that only happen with time. These moments filter relationships and what’s left allows us to make better decisions.

  6. I would like to say that I was withe my wife for six years before I proposed. I wanted to make sure that I waited until we both were on our feet and in a the financial situation to afford it without sacrificing our future. We met my final year in college, & I knew that this was the woman I was going to be with the rest of my life so I did not see the need to rush into it. I felt we had to live together for a couple of years to see & know how each other operates under stress. The student loans had to be paid off, and it had to make financial sense. We know a lot of couple go rushed into marriage because of societies pressures and the marriages fail. We have now been a couple for twelve years, married for four, with two healthy happy kids. We took the time to really get to know each other inside & out and that made all the difference. I hope some women read this and realize that if you rush into marriage, it’s very likely to fail.

  7. This is one of my favorite blogs to date. I am printing this and sharing with someone who doesn’t not seem to understand my message(s) the way I’m saying it. Thank you!

  8. I have a question what do you do when you are going into year seven and have a five year old with this person and two other children that are getting attached to this man and he still acts like he gets sick if i even make a comment about something wedding related on tv?

  9. My boyfriend proposed to me after 6 months and I know for a fact I LOVE him. I am only 21 and he is 29. Of course I cried and said yes but everybody is saying it is too soon…. Do I call off the engagement???!

  10. My bf and I have been together 2 years this month, living together for just over a year. We talked about our relationship leading to marriage (something we both were ultimately looking for) prior to me moving in and since but never an actual timeline. For the last 7-8 months I’ve been convinced he was going to propose due of things he said etc. It never happened, all the opportunities of the holidays, Valentines day and a romantic vacation passed. I finally brought it up because it was driving me crazy and asked when he saw us being married. He told me he saw us married in 3-4 years! He travels quite a bit for work and will continue to do so until then and because his ex-wife had an affair because “she was lonely” he is hesitant to rush it and have the same thing happen. After many tears from me I did tell him marriage was something I wanted again for my life and I want to spend my life with my husband in a committed marriage not with a boyfriend or domestic partner. (something we did dicuss at the start of our relationship) I told him 3-4 years was not acceptable to me and unfair for him to ask me to wait for that committment and sacrifice what’s important to me. I suggested why not get engaged within the next year and be engaged for a year. He didn’t understand why I was so upset because he does love me and says he is committed to me. I felt like my heart was broken, I was completely blown away that we were on completely different timeframes. It has never crossed my mind that we wouldn’t be married and now I wonder if it will ever really happen. We decided to talk about a more mutual timeline later since he was leaving again. It’s been a month and it hasn’t come up. I don’t want to be one of those girls drilling the subject. I’m a good woman and know my worth, I don’t feel I need to beg a man to marry me. I don’t want to give an ultimatum because everyone knows that never goes well, but in my head I have given it until the end of next summer. If he has not proposed in that time I think I will need to move out. I know he loves me but I think I’ve made it too convienant for him. I don’t believe he wants to string me along but am I missing something? Is that what he’s doing? He is gone a lot for work and I do things like taking care of his house when he’s gone, sending him care packages etc. My question is, do I bring it up again when he comes home? I know if marriage wasn’t in his head before, it certainly is now. I feel desperate and out of control with my feelings. It’s a horrible spot to be in. I need some advice because it weighs very heavy on my heart and head, I’m fearful it will effect our relationship. I’m a smart woman and I love him very much, he’s such a wonderful man in so many ways. He’s my best friend, I can’t even fathom not having him in my life but I don’t want to be a fool or settle for less than what I want and deserve. Marriage is important to me. He is a driven man and very focused on his career and is also very stubborn and I’m concerned the more I say about marriage, the more he’ll resist. I don’t want to do the wrong thing and push the man I love away, but I also have to be true to myself. I can’t help but think if it was right and he really does love me, he wouldn’t want to lose me and he would want to call me his wife, and be proud of it. Don’t men want to seal the deal to make sure no one else steals you away? He knows I’m faithful. I already act like his wife, why take the financial risk, is this what men think? (He is 45, married 19 years, divorced 2 1/2, I am 42, married 15 years, divorced almost 4. We both have children, most are older teens, one 10 year old, and we all get along amazingly well. This does not happen very often when mixing families, we are extremely fortunate.)

    1. Hi Terry, doesn’t look like you ever got a response on the advice you were looking for. It’s been nearly 5 months, where are you with this now? I’m facing a similar situation in that we’ve been together nearly 3.5 years and we’ve talked about it but he made it clear he wasn’t “worried about it.” I made the dumb mistake of letting him move in with me and now I know it’s never going to happen. Not because he doesn’t want to marry me, but because he doesn’t want to spend the money on a wedding or some “fancy ring” (as diamonds are overrated and overpriced) – he’d rather spend the money on a honeymoon trip and do a courthouse wedding – which I think is fine but I want my family to witness such an important occasion and they’re not small. Thus, he’s decided to just not worry about it until he’s “in the dog house.” And if money (which he has plenty of, we both do) wasn’t a bad enough reason, he now gets to live with me and have a “wifey” without a solid commitment since he feels he’s 100% committed and that should be enough. I know I probably need to internally set a deadline but now he’s living with me and I’d have to kick him out without so much as a reason so it doesn’t sound like an ultimatum. Just ending it isn’t as easy as this blog makes it sound, what happens when he feels like things are great and is in the process of building a house for you 2 to live in?? How do you say, “I’m not living in a house without my name on it” without making it sound like and ultimatum? Hope things have worked out for you!

      1. Hi Sam,
        Nothing has really changed honestly. He’s been back and forth traveling for work so I’ve tried to just let it go for the most part. The “M” word has come up twice in passing since and he didn’t have any comment at all. (AWKWARD) I’m still sticking with my next summer timeframe for myself if we haven’t at least talked about a time to get engaged. My kids went and worked with him for about a month this summer and my oldest son told me how much he liked and respected him. Melted my heart! He’s such a wondeful man, I know he loves me, I just don’t know if he ever wants to marry me. He knows how I feel and I’m hopeful he won’t wait too long because I will have to follow my head and move out if it doesn’t progress to an engagement. I believe in that commitment with all my heart and I need to be with a man that loves me enough to want me as his wife forever.
        We’re planning a trip to Hawaii next April so fingers crossed he may propose then (of course we’ve taken a few trips before and I was certain he was going to so I can’t get my hopes up too high)
        I feel for you too, being in this situation is very unsettling, I battle with my thoughts and feelings most every day. There are alot of ups and downs emotionally for me and I’ve come to the conclusion I have to give him more time to get to the same place.
        Good luck to you, I hope everything works out with you as well. Follow your heart but try not to give an ultimatum, I do believe it corners a man and likely does the opposite. Keep me posted 🙂

        1. So what happened. It’s the summer of 2014. Did he propose? I’m in a similar situation and don’t want to waste my life either. An update would be much appreciated.

          1. Here’s a happy update- I kept “my” move out ultimatum to myself and let it go at least as far as he was concerned. That November he started introducing me as “my future wife” it blew me away! All of a sudden we started talking about it quite a bit, he told his kids we plan to get married and even his ex wife. I finally said, ok so when? We decided August 2015, we put a deposit on our venue August 2014 but he didn’t “officially” propose and give me a ring until October 2014. We even had a down payment on our honeymoon before that. Lol
            We had a beautiful wedding with all our kids in it and my oldest son gave me away and gave the speech. We went on a dream 3 week honeymoon to France and Italy! Everything just fell into place, we’ve been happily married almost 1 1/2 years now!
            We’ve talked about how things happened and I’ve now confessed about my ultimatum I never told him about. In hindsight, I’m really glad we waited and wouldn’t want it any other way because we only got closer in the time we waited. At the time it was torture, I was constantly in my head about it and over analyzing everything but again I think waiting only made us and our families stronger! Good luck to you and I hope you have the same happy ending as I did 🙂

  11. Good information, wish so much I had it when I was in my early twenties. Now I’m 58, divorced after 30 years of an abusive marriage. My first post marriage relationship ended after I discovered he was a pathological liar. Now in a new relationship for 5 months now. He’s 64, we’re both in great physical shape and health, wonderful love and sexual attraction. Both of us are wary of marriage due to our past marriages. I don’t want to live with him as he had a girlfriend for 12 years that lived with him and ended up leaving him because he wouldn’t marry her. I’m find living in my own house and him in his, I spend the night a few times a week. But really miss him everyday and he says he misses me too. Where do you see this going?

  12. I have found out this that most men are full of lost for women only few are faithful to their wives this was something i battled with for close to nine years i have been married to my husband he goes out with different kinds of girls he is never tired of it and the worst he sees nothing wrong with it it became so unbearable for me and now he was planning for a divorce after i had two kids for him this really broke my heart because i really loved him so much because i was a virgin before he married me and he is the first person i ever slept with.I ran to my cousin for advice she then told me that she knew of a man that can cast a spell that will remove the spirit of hatred in him towards me and before i know it he will begin to change for good and be faithful to me and stop going out with other girls i ask for the man’s contact she then told me it was with her friend whom Priest Ajigar helped to revive her marriage long ago we both went their and she gave us Priest Ajigar contact email i contacted him and he promised he will help me bring his senses back after the spell was casted his mood began to change first he stomped coming late at night and he deleted all the girls contact he had and on one faithful day i was cooking in the kitchen when i saw him knelt down in front of me begging to forgive him for being on unfaithful,he promised that he will never do such things again i forgive him and since 2 years now he have not go out with any girl again what a wonderful spell caster Priest Ajigar is and don’t you think you need his help also quickly here is his email just contact him and i bet you will testify between three to four days the way your marriage will turn around for good.Priest Ajigar is really the best spell caster ever

  13. Thanks to Priest Ajigar for a wonderful spell cast that brought my Boy friend back to me he left for good 4 years without even a call i vowed never to marry any other person except him,my elder sister saw the way i missed him and cried every day that passed and decided we go in search of a power full spell caster seeing how he helped many people to restore their marriage and bringing back their ex i decided to contact Priest Ajigar and he was able to bring him back to me not that he never feel for me where he was but it was just that he found a girl there and he almost forget me but now he is back and we got married last week you can see how priest Ajigar really helped me i seriously advised that if you are in a relationship and your boy friend is not proposing marriage to you or he left you for another girl after a long time relationship both of you have spent together i advice you consult High priest Ajigar for help on his spells a pure and their is no doubt about it works perfectly as you desire withing four days thing will turn for good.

  14. Well said Chey B no futher questions on this one its cristal clear and thank you so much with this blog it made me realize some few things that I didn’t even take a look on them .wow awesome bra I give u a bell

  15. What is the correct technique in making yourself less and less available to make him want more exclusivity and commitment? If you just start refusing dates, or saying you’re too busy to see each other this week, wouldn’t that give the wrong impression to your guy and make him think you are not into him anymore? Wouldn’t that slow down the pace of the relationship?

    I’ve been with this guy for about 6 months and we kinda have a routine for seeing each other every weekend and one day in the week. If I suddenly put a halt to this, would that still work? How would I go about this exactly?

  16. Its been 3 1/5 years now. I have three kids he has none. In the begining of our relationship I always told him I thought it was a lot for him to handle but he said that he didn’t care. He is amazing with my kids and they love him. I love him dearly too but here’s the problem. When he introduced me to his mom she decided she didn’t want to have anything to do with me. Now when he is around his family I can’t be there. It’s been 3 and half years of my life! He says he wants us to get married but yet I’m non existent to his family, how is this going to work? I honestly can’t help but feel disrespected . What do you think? What should I do? Bye the way, I work and am completely independant and own my own house and take care of my kids, so its not like his mother can say I’m using her precious son.

    1. Start having hyour own life. Don’t be available for every little text and phone call. He hasn’t asked you to marry him (officially), you don’t owe him anything. Start opening yourself up to other possibilities. It’s his loss and he’d do best to realize it before it’s too late, if it isn’t already.

  17. I am in a situation that is driving me crazy. We have been dating for just under 2 years, living together for 6 months. Before we moved in together we discussed what it meant. It was determined that it would be a trial period for seeing if we should marry. I said I expected an engagement within 6 months of living together successfully and once that was confirmed, we moved in together. 6 months has come and gone. A very romantic Valentine’s day where he spent enough money to have purchased a ring and proposed has come and gone. My father calls him his “son in law” and while I think that level of acceptance is really sweet, I’m kind of upset because he is neither my husband nor my fiance.

    I am 31 years old, he is soon to be 33. I want to settle down and build a family. My education and career are in place and I’m not getting any younger. Our lease is up in September and if I don’t have a ring and a date set by September 1st, I will relocate by October 1st. The thought of living without him is not exciting and makes me sad, but I would not have moved in with him without acknowledgement of my expectations. I feel lied to already and September will be a year… 6 months AFTER what we agreed. If that’s what happens, I’m gone.

  18. i just got my ex back few days ago through the help of Dr Lawrence i am so happy that finally my ex is back i do love him so much and i can’t resist a moment without him in my life,really i have been looking for a real and genuine spell caster who could bring him back to me but thank God today he is back and i own all thanks to this great spell caster Dr Lawrence for his kind help drlawrencespelltemple@hotmail. com, Luna

  19. I received a beautiful 100-year-old engagement ring today. The ring was placed on my finger but there was no proposal. We’ve been together almost 7 years. The tears were welling up in my eyes. The ring is now in my jewelry box. I told my long-term boyfriend over the last few years that if he wanted to get married we could or we could have a short engagement or a long engagement of 100 years. It didn’t matter to me. We could make our own rules. But todays happenings hurt my feelings so badly that I cannot stop crying.

    1. That’s heartbreaking. My boyfriend of 5 months also gave me a family ring, but didn’t actually propose. It’s so very sad. Because it just kind of goes downhill from there with the hurt heart and feelings. Especially after reading about people who are engaged in 1-3 weeks, and are marrried for 30+ years. Especially after he said he loved me after two weeks. 😦

  20. I just feel so heartbroken after reading this… im going on 5 years with my boyfirend after knowing eachother for almost 10 years and ive always felt like maybe he was just wasting my time… and the more I think of it the more I feel he is… maybe I’m trying to fit the wrong piece into my life’s puzzle… I’m 27 and at this point I don’t see this going anywhere… Thanks for the eye opener… always kind of knew it.especially after he only wanted to propose if I moved in with him to see how we got along living together… like a freaking test drive. I of course refused. Didnt want to believe it.

  21. I’m 50 and have been waiting 6 months after he said he loves me after TWO WEEKS. It’s so hard to draw the line ladies but we have to. We have to start backing off ever so gradually and having our own lives again.

    1. If he proposes now I don’t feel cherished anymore. There’s just too much resentment. Apparently he started having second thoughts, and that is very very unfortunate, the end of the relationship.

  22. Okay so I told him straight up today I was disappointed and not going to keep frittering away my time, over about a 45 minute phone call. And I meant it. Wow did things change.

  23. I had a problem with my boyfriend 6 months ago, which lead to our broke up. When he broke up with me, i was not myself again; i fill so empty inside me. Until a friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too. i email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short. Before i knew what was happening, not up to 48 hours, my boyfriend gave me a call and he come back to me and told me he was sorry for everything that happen,i am so greatful to this spell caster and will not stop publishing his name on the net for the good work he is doing.If you need his help,you can email him at onimalovespell @gmail. com and he will also help you too Dr Kasee of onimalovespell @gmail. com or tel +2347051705853 i will forever be greatful to you.

  24. my name is Karo I was married to my husband for 5 years we were living happily together for this years and not until he traveled to Italy for a business trip where he met this girl and since then he hate me and the kids and love her only. so when my husband came back from the trip he said he does not want to see me and my kids again so he drove us out of the house and he was now going to Italy to see that other woman. So i and my kids were now so frustrated and i was just staying with my mum and i was not be treating good because my mother got married to another man after my father death so the man she got married to was not treating her well, i and my kids were so confuse and i was searching for a way to get my husband back home because i love and cherish him so much so one day as i was browsing on my computer i saw a testimony about this spell caster DRokowaspelltemple, testimonies shared on the internet by a lady and it impress me so much i also think of give it a try. At first i was scared but when i think of what me and my kids are passing through so i contact him and he told me to stay calm for just 24 hours that my husband shall come back to me and to my best surprise i received a call from my husband on the second day asking after the kids and i called drokowaspelltemple and he said your problems are solved my child. so this was how i get my family back after a long stress of brake up by an evil lady so with all this help from DR OKOWA, i want you all on this forum to join me to say a huge thanks to DR OKOWA, and i will also advice for any one in such or similar problems or any kind of problems should also contact him his email is (drokowaspelltemple@GMAIL.COM or +2348068048519) he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life. once again his email address is ( HE IS SPECIALIZE IN THE THE FOLLOWING SPELL. (1) If you want your ex back.(2) if you always have bad dreams.(3) If you want to be promoted in your office.(4) If you want women/men to run after you.(5) If you want a child.(6) If you want to be rich.(7) If you want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.(8) If you need financial assistance.(9) Have you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money.(10) if you want to stop your divorce.(11) if you want to divorce your husband.(12) if you want your wishes to be granted.(13) Pregnancy spell to conceive baby(14) Guarantee you win the troubling court cases & divorce no matter how what stage(15) Stop your marriage or relationship from breaking apart.(16) if you have any sickness like ( H I V ), (CANCER) or any sickness.(17) if you need prayers for deliverance for your child or yourself. Once again make sure you contact him if you have any problem he will help you. his email address is (drokowaspelltemple ) contact him immediately…

  25. Im in a similar frustrating situation to most other posters and have set a time frame in my head/heart as well…but Im cross that Ive had to. It hurts that the love of my life after 4 years isnt creating opportunities for us to be together, committed after all this time. All I hear are excuses which makes me sad and then mad at him for deflecting the real issue…he is stalling for time cause if he truly wanted to marry me, he would.

    So yeah…I want a man who WANTS to marry me..someone who cant wait to have me in their lives as their wife. At my age (49), Im done feeling like Im still needing to audition for the position as wife, that he had all the say and control in what is happening for us as a couple and that at the end of the day I have no say, or contribution our lives together as Im only the girlfriend.

    What is so strange is that I have a brilliant career, am a professional, have my own house and cars, have a rural property and Im self sufficient….so whats stopping him? After 4 years of being there for him through so many ups and downs (he went through a property settlement with his crazy ex) ,I dont understand why he needs more time, or wants to make sure as marriage is a big thing to him…it is to me too….but theres NOTHING more I can give him that he doesnt already know about me…I feel like he is stringing me along!

  26. Life can be very displeasing especially when we loose the ones we love and cherish so.
    much.My husband abandoned me and my 2 kids and said he wanted new adventures.I asked what I had done wrong but he said nothing.He continued paying our bills but moved in with another woman I was so frustrated and at times I will cry all night because I needed my husband by my side. all thanks to Dr Osaze, I was nearly loosing hope until I saw an article on how Dr Osaze cast a love spell to make lovers come back. There is no harm in trying, I said to my self. I contacted him via email and after 24 hrs my story changed. words will not be enough to appreciate what he has done for me. I have promised to share the testimony as long as I live because he brought back happiness and joy into my life.If you having any kind of problem in your relationship and you need your man back I RECOMMEND Dr Osaze.pls do contact hm directly on “spirituallove@hotmail. com”.

  27. You guys must have seen a lot of write up like mine on the internet.Some of them are true and some i can’t really say cos truthfully i din’t know.It will be wrong for me to say they are not true because i wasn’t the person who kept them on the internet so i dont have the ability to tell if something is true or not.I can tell you that is this,its best to believe every word written by someone who wrote about how METODO ACAMU help fix their problem with a spell cos i too have experienced his greatness first hand.METODO ACAMU is the only or i would say one of the few spell caster that still walk on the surface of this earth.Not everyone think this but i for one, think he is one of the remaining few spell caster that is still alive and helping people.I also think those who have had an experience with him can back me up on this.You can say casting a spell on someone you love is selfish or inhuman or stealing the person free will.But love spell doesn’t work like that cos the person in question that you are casting a spell on, doesn’t become a slave to you or to love.They only get to love you so dearly that they can lay their life for you.What ever any reader think of me i want you to know that i got what i wanted and my partner also did “love”.I fell in love with my research partner.We have been working together for a long time and we have been through a lot together breakthrough, disappointments and everything you can think of.We closely observed our lives and came to a conclusion that we could be friend for life.Only that i wanted her to be more than just a friend.We were so close that it made other lab scientist think we were having an affair even our supervisor thought the same i wished to my star that we were having an affair because i loved her so much.She was undeniably beautiful with a great body and great smile that drives every man nuts.We will talk all night at my place after work.Because she lived in New Jersey and worked here in New York it was almost always impossible for her to return home cos we always finished from the lab so late at night.We would lie close to each talking about everything.I could hear her heart beat like she always wanted me to make a move me cos when i finally made the big move, not like she pulled oat her.I mean maybe i read the signs wrong or something that made me think she was falling for ut immediately but she did pull of.From there on she made us just work and nothing else not friend, not lovers just nothing.She was avoiding me, not picking my call and it was really killing believe me when you fall in love with a girl and it turns out that she is not picking your calls you dont know how hurtful it can be.I was puzzled, i could not rap it arround my head how a girl would like but still don’t anything to do with you.We went on like that for eight months.I guess it was around that time i found Metodo Acamu contact on the internet and contacted him.METODO ACAMU help me cast a love spell with just and only the materials he asked me tp provide which i did.Though it took two weeks to complete the spell,he help made her love me the way she does right now.I suggest you all read other comment about METODO ACAMU you find on the internet.Though my testimony is not lengthen,i think i have said enough to make to those like me who have trust issues about spell casting believe that METODO ACAMU is the only one that can help you.He even asked me to bring the materials which he used to get my spell casted to his temple myself but i was too busy and was not ready to get a plane ticket to travel to get the spell casted when i could just wire the total cost for him to get the materials and aside that he is the expert in this things he would know where to find all the materials needed for the spell casting.For those people like me looking for help here is METODO ACAMU email contact you can use to reach him {}

  28. Hi ladies,
    I have been with my partner for 15 years and we have three children one is 11 one is 3 and the othee is 4 months. I have known I wanted to marry him since about 10 years ago. We talk about marriage and he says he wants to and that its just financial. We also have a house together. He is a great dad good partner and i know he loves me dearly. It has been so hard for me waiting and wanting the love of my life and father of my children to propose. I also feel sad because i have a different surname to him and the kids. We have talked about it and he says all in good time and yes its something we need to do and its overdue. I am a good girlfriend and i take exceptional care of him and the kids. Am i being unreasonable? Is he ever going to ask me? I love him but i always knew one day i wanted to get married and i am hurting.

  29. Hi ladies,
    I have been with my partner for 15 years and we have three children one is 11 one is 3 and the othee is 4 months. I have known I wanted to marry him since about 10 years ago. We talk about marriage and he says he wants to and that its just financial. We also have a house together. He is a great dad good partner and i know he loves me dearly. It has been so hard for me waiting and wanting the love of my life and father of my children to propose. I also feel sad because i have a different surname to him and the kids. We have talked about it and he says all in good time and yes its something we need to do and its overdue. I am a good girlfriend and i take exceptional care of him and the kids. Am i being unreasonable? Is he ever going to ask me? I love him but i always knew one day i wanted to get married and i am hurting a lot.

  30. please i need your help!
    ok i 25 years and he is 27. i have been in an 8 year old relationship with this guy since high school. we were great lovers and he got committed to me 5 years ago. during that time we were both not working, meaning he couldnt propose marriage which i had no problem with. My guy has a lot of female friends around him and however and during last year he told me he met a girl who came from a poor family background due to that he felt pity and has since then been of help to her.
    Even though he told me this i feel this girl is in to break up my relationship. i argued with my boyfriend about this and has since decided not to discuss anything concerning this girl. This relationship has been very rough since this girl came into the picture ”cos i keep bugging my boyfriend with it.
    Recently we nearly broke up over a call and infront of his mother i gave him an altimattum to choose between the girl and i. ( which he chose the girl). I was shocked so i took back on my words, but he wasnt ready to listen to me.
    Just 2 months ago was my birthday i went to his house and in the process of love making he confessed that he has cheated on me with another lady (he did not mention it was this same girl) because i have “pushed” him to. i was broken and i should have just let go of him, but i couldnt.
    Now he barely initiates a call or text and it seems i am at his mercy. He tells me he has lost interest but then comes again and say ‘i know he loves me with all his heart’. My friend and family say i should move on without him. His friends also say he likes sleeping around with girls, eventhough i have not sensed anything like that, i take it as rumour. Just this evening as i am typing i called to check on him after sending him a text early on in the day. I thought he would call back since i have not heard from him today but he didnt. He sounded sleepy so i told him i will call at dawn the next day, and to my surprise he just said i shouldnt call him.
    Is he still serious about our relationship or have i just lost it all. He has been my first and me his first love. I dont want to be needy of him ‘ cos i have been there before and trust me things just got worst. I am thinking of dating someone else next yeae when things do not change. I am soo much confused now.
    please any experienced mind to help me through it?

    1. Just move on..forget this man..he dont want anything to do with you. If he love you he will not hurt you..plenty an awesome men out there that will treat n love you much better..

  31. So I’ve been with my boyfriend since my Junior year of high school, his senior year. We’ve known each other since 2010, and December 25th is our 5 year anniversary. We recently moved in for the first time together this year October 16th, 2015. I gave him an ultimatum, if by December 31st I didn’t have a ring we were done. Was I wrong? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

  32. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years. He’s 31 and so am I. For the past 2 years, marriage has been the topic of discussion. He tells me he loves me and has told me that without a doubt I’m the woman he wants to marry. Year, after year I’ve waited for him to pop the question because of what he’s told me. He’s a wonderful man. Treats me well. Today I had to come to the realization, that he may never propose so I ended the relationship. I couldn’t take any more of the battle of emotions I was going through because of him not choosing to marry me. He said he understood my emotional turmoil and he respected my decision to leave the relationship. I didn’t give him an ultimatum, but I’m hoping that since I’ve removed myself from the relationship, he will realize how important I am to him and he will want to marry me. That’s is what I’m truly praying for. They say if u love something let something go and if it comes back it’s yours; if not it was never meant to be. I guess only time will tell if fights for me with an engagement. What do you think?

    1. I think the same thing but I also don’t want an engagement out of an ultimatum. Never the way I thought it would go down, but it seems that’s how it might go

  33. We are just about to celebrate 7 years together, have just recently purchased a house and a dog and the question still hadn’t come up. I’m starting to think it just never will. I’m tired of deflecting peoples questions and comments about our relationship, constantly trying to make excuses up for him, when all along I completely with them. He seems to think it’s funny that I bring it up time to time just hinting and hoping. Thing is now we have all these things tighter, so even if I decided to leave it would just create larger issues !!

  34. I have been in a serious relationship with my Guy for 3 good years.. One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a Quarrel and he stood up and left me at the dinner party. i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us. I cry all day, Then i contacted a friend of mine that had this similar experience and she directed me to Dr.Saze and i contacted him and tell him my problems how i lost my relationship with my lover. at first i thought it was not going to be possible.i was ask to come up with a little requirement information of me and my Guy,so i did what i was ask to do, after 24Hours the spell was cast i was in my office when my Guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him. i was very surprise it was like a dream to me. my Lover is now back and he treat me very good. and our relationship is now stronger ask ever before. if you are act there looking for help is time for you to still put your hope on Dr.Saze love spell, i promise you that you will be happy with your LOver again email him. (spirituallove @ hotmail . com)

  35. Im with my patner for 2 years far he gave me 2 rings as a present but never pop the question.i bring it up sometime but still nothing .🙂

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