Q: “Why are us women attracted to the WRONG type of guys?”
A: The good guy is the man you “need”… to grow with, have a long lasting (meaningful) relationship with, build a family with, and everything else in between. He’s got his priorities in order, puts family first, loves you/cares for you, and would let nothing come between you and his family. He’s respectful, loving, honest, loyal, trustworthy, supportive, and he communicates well. He plays everything by the book and offers a great deal of security. <<< This is what I call I man of substance. Some women aren’t yet mature enough to see the value in this type of man, and that’s ok.
Yes, he’s predictable… and for most… that becomes an issue. So get all the immaturity out of your system while you’re young. Deal with as many bad boys as you need to so that you can later prepare yourself for the good guy. The good guy lasts the longest… but you’ve got to be ready for him. Now the bad boy is the man you “want” for adventure/excitement! He’s unpredictable, he offers a thrill, he has an edge that turns you on!!! All the passion he has inside from living such a challenging/rebellious lifestyle comes out in the bedroom and you love it!!! You can’t get him to settle down, you’re never sure if you’re the only one, you can’t control, predict, or manipulate his next move, so it becomes a challenge to turn this “bad boy” into the “good guy”. <<<< Which you’ll never do.
The challenge to make him do a “180” can last for years!!! With the good guy, he’s almost “perfect” on paper, so there’s little to no work that needs to be done with him. And because of this… a woman may get bored and take him for granted. So what a woman will do is… she’ll first try and get the “good guy” to be “edgy” and do something adventurous and/or exciting because she saw someone else’s relationship offering such, or she saw something exciting/adventurous on TV, or out in the world!!! Something that she doesn’t get in her relationship, no matter how “content” she may be.
If getting him to do something exciting/adventurous seems forced or doesn’t quite meet her standards… She “outsources” by doing something adventurous (i.e. going to a strip club, taking a vacation and flirting/sleeping with someone she knows in that city or just met just for the rush… (and tell only her girls about it). Or get a boy toy on the side who offers nothing but a romantic or sexual fantasy!!! Something she could never get from the “perfect” (by the book) man she’s got at home. The good guy offers “routine”.
The bad boy offers “whatever’s clever”. The wrong guy (bad boy) brings out the bad in you!!! Everyone likes excitement and adventure! So while you may not be able to hold onto that excitement/adventure forever… we all look for a taste every now and then… and hope that the person we have at home can offer it to us. The bad boy should be used for exactly what he’s good for… Temporary satisfaction. Find yourself a good guy, appreciate him, grow with him. Thank me later 😉
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